By: Guy Stilwell
Imagine a world where what matters most is sex. Imagine a world where the average television and computer screen consistently projects sexual content for all ages to watch. Does this sound insane? Unfortunately, that is the world we live in. There is a very fine line between underwear commercials and pornography. We live in the age where pornography surrounds us. Porn is not new. It has been around for decades. The difference, however, is how deeply it has rooted into our lives and our culture.
The amount of Americans who view porn is staggering. The Digital Journal reported on August 14, 2014 that sixty-four percent of American men view porn at least monthly. That means that statistically at least half of the men that read this are porn users. Understand this, out of the 78.9 billion videos viewed, as reported by Pornhub.com, there is no way of knowing the actual age of the people watching their videos so it is likely that children factor into that number. It isn’t just adults who are affected by the porn plague.
The numbers and statistics are great and all but that’s really not the point here. The point is that porn has corrupted sex and taken it from being a beautiful act of intimacy in a marriage to a disgusting act of lust used for recreation. One could argue that the idea that sex should only take place in a marriage is a strictly Christian ideal but that is not the case. If that statement were true, then porn users would be more publically open about viewing porn. The truth is we as human beings have an innate desire to be intimate with another human being. Sex is the ultimate physical intimacy so that is naturally what we seek. Porn has had great success in taking that intimacy and tearing it to shreds.
So what is the meaning of porn? What is its purpose? The answer is porn means absolutely nothing. Sex has no greater purpose than to satisfy our temporary physical cravings in minutes as defined by pornographic culture. The men and women on the screen have no value but to fulfill the fantasies of any man, woman, or child that has a smart phone and a search bar. Thanks to pornography, we may now all enjoy viewing men and women degrade themselves and defile their bodies for our sexual enjoyment. What a wonderful life.
There is a misconception that porn has no effects on the viewer. The truth is pornography affects its viewers much like a drug. “Compulsive users of porn show the same signs of addiction in their brain as those hooked on booze or drugs, according to researchers” said Fiona Macrae on Dailymail.co.uk. The only difference is there is no “porn dealer”. You don’t have to meet at the park in the middle of the night to get it. The drug is readily available to you at any time and, if you take time to look, it’s free.
There are countless testimonies from families and friends of drug users and alcoholics that state how the abuse tears the family apart and destroys friendships. “I was really unhappy and just drank to escape my life…I was violent and out of control…I was ripping my family apart…” “During the whole time I was on drugs I thought I had control over my life and that I had it great. But I destroyed everything I had built up and fought for in my life…” Said Samantha and Pat, former drug users who testified on Drugfreeworld.org which is a non-profit organization dedicated to education about drugs and their effects on users. The reason why this happens is because the user forms their life around the drug. The same effects occur in porn addicts, but when was the last time you heard one of them give a testimony about their addiction? We all know it exists, half of the nation watches it, but nobody says a word.
Pornography destroys marriages. Marriagetoday.com gives several reasons why porn kills marriages. The first reason is that it causes men to objectify women and therefore reduce a woman’s value and individuality. The second issue is that porn “introduces another person into a couple’s sex life.” And the third reason is that porn causes a phenomena called escalation. Escalation is when sexual stimulation that once was gratifying is no longer because of over stimulation due to porn use. Additionally, porn distorts how men and women view the opposite sex. Porn portrays men and women as objects with no value except for when they are satisfying somebody’s sexual cravings. Then, when he or she is done, they are now worthless again and it’s on to the next one.
There is a solution to the problem, however. The first thing that those who struggle with this problem can do is get help. There are several recovery programs out there including Fight The New Drug’s “Fortify” program. Churches all over the U.S. have Celebrate Recovery programs (including Emmanuel Baptist Church in Pittsburg, Texas) that help with addictions, habits, and struggles. If you want to have a real relationship with a human being rather than your computer screen, you might take into consideration what is written here. Otherwise, porn will continue to spread to every corner of the country and rot us from the inside out.